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Don't Expect Too Much

There are so many standards placed upon me that I am constantly trying to fulfill.

Judy Brady's essay I Want a Wife analyzed the standards that are placed upon wives from their husbands, but it made me think about what others would expect from me.

My teachers might say they want a student that always does their homework on time. They want a student that sacrifices their social life for studying. They want a student that balances extracurriculars and sports along with their school work. They want a student that actively participates, understands the material right away, and gets good grades on tests.

My coaches might say they want an athlete that trains and conditions every day. They want an athlete that almost never misses a shot and gets every ground ball.  They want an athlete that is never injured. They want an athlete that is always on time, 100% dedicated to the sport, and leads her teammates.

My friends might say they want a friend that always responds to their texts. They want a friend that can drive them. They want a friend that is always willing to go out. They want a friend that will be there for them every time. They want a friend who is always friendly, always having a good time, and is always down for whatever.

My parents might say they want a daughter that is responsible. They want a daughter that gets good grades and has good games. They want a daughter that is home on time every night. They want a daughter that always texts them. They want a daughter that is outgoing at family parties, always has her room clean, and goes to bed before ten o'clock.

How can I achieve it all?

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